Tag Archives: grief

Maybe the hardest thing I’ve ever done

Posted on July 16, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

I was a bit torn when it came time to sell the house I’d owned at 367 Republic Road in Batavia. We moved there from a tiny little 750-square-foot house in Geneva with a leaky basement, a radon problem, and … Continue reading →

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What else was I gonna do?

Posted on June 4, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

Over the eleven years since my late wife died and I met and married my wife Suzanne, I’ve given much thought to that choice to date so soon after the loss of a spouse. My answer to that question comes … Continue reading →

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Life in context

Posted on June 3, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

Sue and I rode together consistently in the summer of 2013. I recall it as a warm year, and every time she showed up in her little black cycling shorts and sleeveless kit jersey, I admired her arms and overall … Continue reading →

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Dating as a widower

Posted on January 23, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

The term “widower” seems so loaded with tradition and history, it deserves a definition right here and now. I looked it up and this is what it says: If anything I was a garden widower before my late wife Linda … Continue reading →

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Grief and choices

Posted on January 22, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

At times I’ve considered whether I’m “missing a chip” when it comes to grieving lost loved ones. Over the years I’ve met people, both men and women, that can’t recover after losing a spouse. Time magazine dealt with the subject … Continue reading →

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The unexplainable

Posted on January 21, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

In the wake of my wife’s passing, my children still had obligations to meet. My son was in a job out in New York. My daughter had a semester to finish at Augustana College. Yet all of time seems to … Continue reading →

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How time slips away, but not with 4WD

Posted on January 18, 2024 by Christopher Cudworth

Well, hello thereMy, it’s been a long, long timeHow am I doing?Oh, I guess that I’m doing fine It’s been so long nowBut it seems now, that it was only yesterdayGee, ain’t it funny, how time slips away =Willie Nelson … Continue reading →

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Not “woe is me,” but resiliency

Posted on June 13, 2023 by Christopher Cudworth

Following the emotional breakdown of my wife after the cancer returned in 2007 after two years of treatments and remission, I proceeded to lose my new job at the marketing agency. It had taken months to work up the courage … Continue reading →

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50 Years of Running: coming to grief through soccer

Posted on April 18, 2023 by Christopher Cudworth

In the five years leading up to my late wife’s diagnosis of ovarian cancer, I experienced a period of grief related to my own physical and mental health. During one of the last years my daughter played soccer, her coach … Continue reading →

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The solemnity of a dirt nap

Posted on January 9, 2017 by Christopher Cudworth

A few weeks ago while running at night, I cut across a plowed cornfield to avoid having to turn back through a cul de sac. Having made many such decisions in life, I knew there was a risk of falling, … Continue reading →

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