By Christopher Cudworth
Wake up people, because we’re about to deal with the topic of why you really run and ride.
Which is sex.
Getting it. Giving it. Round and round we go. We run and ride to get fit, stay fit and potentially perform better in bed.
Then we run and ride some more. Because there are moments when running and riding are just about as good as sex.
Like that moment in late June when you’re finally fit on the bike and you’re out riding in early morning sunshine with smoothly shaved legs and a sweet looking kit glued to your body. You hammer along and catch on to a small group of other cyclists and exchange pleasantries. Yet you feel so good that after a mile or so you ride off the front. Your thighs gleam with a light sweat and you give a short wave as you crest the hill and sprint away down the other side. Life is sweet. Like sex on two wheels.
Or perhaps you’re out for a 15-mile on a cool April morning and two weeks out from a half-marathon. For weeks you’ve struggled along feeling limp and weak when suddenly in the middle of your long run you feel a surge of energy and begin to pick up the pace. It goes like that for a couple miles and you begin to wonder if you’re having some sort of “out-of-body” experience. Everything feels good. Your feet sweep over the ground. Your deep breathing seems to fill you with strength. Even your arm carriage seems lighter and freer than ever before. You even look around to see if anyone’s watching you, and wish you had this moment on film, because it isn’t often quite like this. You could make running porn, it feels so good. Almost a guilty feeling running, isn’t it?
A couple days later you slip into the pool for a training and recovery swim and the water feels like butter around you. The swimsuit fits and you start alternate strokes; breast stroke, freestyle, even butterfly. Dang! This is awesome. It should be illegal to feel this good.
Yes, riding and running and swimming can feel that good at times. You work hard for your Sweet Spots. Why feel guilty over a little healthy pleasure?
When you work hard to keep fit, your companion of choice appreciates you more. When you feel good about yourself, life is better in a whole lot of ways. You share your head and body more freely. You live more in the moment. When you finally fall into bed or the whirlpool or anywhere else you and your companion choose to hook up, the sex is so much better.
Crash Into You
If you’re tired from a long run or ride that day, you take it slow together. Making love is about collapsing into each other at times.
Or you can crash into each other with all that strength and energy. Dave Matthews sang it best in his song Crash:
Touch your lips just so I know
In your eyes, love, it glows so
I’m bare-boned and crazy for you
When you come crash
Into me, baby
And I come into you
See, it’s all about giving yourself over. The discipline of running and riding sets us up for a wonderful flip side in which we turn over our hearts and bodies to the ones we love. We strive through pain and difficulty to better appreciate the love we can feel in the presence of another. Sometimes it’s about stress release. Other times desire.
And when given before training or racing or competition, sex can be an expression of faith in the other person. A sign that says, “I love you. You can do it baby.”
Full of love and courage
If you’ve ever raced after making love you know there’s a relaxation and confidence that comes with having been immersed in the arms of another. No one can scare you because your heart is full of love and courage. You race with freedom and confidence.
Reports tell us the Olympic Village is one giant humpfest as athletes with some of the best bodies in the world hook up for the love and joy of international relations.
For most of us,opportunities for sex are not of Olympic proportions. Yet people who love fitness are naturally attracted to those who also run, ride and swim. For one thing, the training and racing makes for shared experiences, and the social component is great for support and self esteem.
So you join a running or cycling club hoping to meet up with someone who has common interests. Or, you can try a site like www.fitness-singles.com. Honestly, that’s where I met the gal I’m dating. You might also try your hand on eHarmony.com and be sure to put your cycling and running interests into your profile. You might be surprised how many people looking for other fit people out there in the world.
Fitness breeds good sex
It’s an evolutionary fact. Fitness breeds good sex. It has taken millions and billions of years for the human race to evolve into sentient beings that can imagine and execute the crucial dance that leads to sex. And let’s admit it. That guy or gal in their bike shorts on the Saturday morning ride is just a little more fun to follow when their ass is so finely shaped. Or their skin gleams in the sun. Sweet hair hangs out the back of their helmet. You listen to their voice the entire ride. Desire builds inside. They even seem to sweat sexy. You decide to make a quiet play.
So give it your best shot this day. Go out there and run and ride. It’s a great tease even if it doesn’t land you in bed with the person of your dreams. Run on. Ride on. Swim away.
It’s all good baby. All good.